June 2026
Why we reach for our phones when we're sad
Regulation-seeking is instinctual. The question isn't whether you do it, it's what it costs you.
Thoughts on the inner life.
Thoughtbytes are short, single-idea reads. Articles go deeper into concepts, personal takes, and opinions.
June 2026
The difference between feeling better and getting better
They can happen at the same time, but they're not the same thing. One is a state. The other is a change.
May 2026
On the cost of being the person who never needs anything
Someone learns early that their needs are inconvenient. The solution looks like strength. It isn't.
May 2026
What anxiety is actually trying to tell you
Anxiety isn't a malfunction. It's a signal. The problem is we've been taught to silence it rather than interpret it.
April 2026
The relationship between insight and change
Understanding why you do something doesn't automatically stop you doing it. But it changes the quality of the doing.
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